Porn as default sex educator heightens risk of abuse

It can be hard to tell what is consensual in pornography, and what isn’t. But even content made by freely consenting adults can contribute to significant harms.

Porn is made to sexually arouse its viewers and, from the industry’s perspective, it doesn’t matter how unrealistic, racist, rough or degrading it is, as long as it creates revenue. In fact, the industry is pretty open about the fact that the rougher stuff sells best. It’s not marginal; it’s mainstream.

As porn producers and young people have explained to me, people don’t really want to watch “softcore” porn. The most popular porn often depicts physical and verbal aggression, which is almost always directed towards women, and is usually met with either a neutral or positive response. Non-consensual behaviours are also common.

These representations are giving a distorted view of sex and of men and women, including a sort of eroticisation of violence against women. They suggest that aggression is desirable and pleasurable and that most women enjoy being treated this way.

Pornography is not just fantasy on a screen. It is shaping reality in unprecedented ways. For young people growing up online, porn has become a kind of default sex educator.

New Australian research released by Our Watch has found that almost half (48 per cent) of young men have seen pornography by the age of 13, and almost half of young women (48 per cent) have seen it by the age of 15. Young men are much more likely than young women to be regular consumers. Over half (56 per cent) of young men report accessing pornography at least weekly, and 17 per cent use it daily, compared with 15 per cent of young women who use it weekly and 1 per cent who use it daily.

On average, young men see pornography three years before their first sexual experience. For young women, the gap is two years. If you do the maths, that means most young men will see porn hundreds of times before they’ve had a chance to explore their sexuality with another human being. And there is growing evidence globally that porn is shaping their sexual imaginations, expectations and practices.

Sixty per cent of young men and 41 per cent of young women report actively using pornography as a source of information about sex in the last 12 months – even though most of them rightly acknowledge that porn is neither realistic, nor a good way to learn about sex. They’re right about that.

Porn’s most concerning influence is its relationship to violence. Consistent with other research from around the world, Our Watch found that regular consumers of pornography are more likely than other young people to hold attitudes that are known to drive violence against women, such as a belief in rigid gender roles or a view that men should be ‘in charge’. The study also found gendered differences in young people’s analyses of the aggression and degradation in porn. For example, young men were much less likely than young women to recognise and express concern about the violence against women that is so commonly depicted in pornography.

Violence against women is a global public health crisis – but porn suggests that violence against women is sexy. We can’t afford to ignore pornography’s contribution to gender-based violence.

It is way past time that porn sites and the other corporate interests that profit from the widespread publication of child abuse and eroticised violence against women were held to account. Governments need to step up and legislate to undermine the business model that has enabled and rewarded abuse at such a massive scale.


But we’d be deluding ourselves if we thought that would fix it all. We need a multi-pronged approach to addressing porn’s harms that is both considered and courageous. It should include education among parents and in schools to support young people to think critically about the representations they see of sexuality – and of gender, power and aggression – in porn or any other media, and to help young people aspire to relationships and sexuality that are safe, equal, respectful and consenting.

Porn is a challenging issue, but we can and must do better than accept a world in which young people get their sex education from sites that profit from abuse.

Maree Crabbe is director of It’s Time We Talked, an Australian violence-prevention initiative that seeks to address pornography’s influence on young people.

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Goulburn educator Louse Hill receives third award from Family Day Care Australia | Goulburn Post

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Her love for children has earned Goulburn early childhood educator Louise Hill a regional award for excellence in family day care for the third time. Louise – who has been a family day carer for nearly 30 years – was named the Regional Educator Winner for Goulburn and the Southern Tablelands in the 2020 Family Day Care Australia’s Excellence in Family Day Care Awards. She also received this award in 2018 and 2019. The parents of the children she looks after nominated her. “I feel that’s quite a nice honour to have,” Louise said. “It acknowledges they like what I’m doing with their children.” READ ALSO Louise is registered with Goulburn Family Day Care. She works from her Goulburn home, but operates under the same regulations as a day care centre. Instead of large groups, however, she only has four children under the age of five, and three school children. “I just love the children that I look after,” Louise said. “I treat all the children like they’re my own, which is what family day care is all about.” She has 15 children registered with her; the youngest is 14 months, and the oldest is 12 years old. “I love watching them grow up, and I love seeing them when they go to school,” Louise said. “When they start talking,” she added, “they come out with the weirdest sayings.” Louise has cared for children for nearly 29 years. During that time, she has seen some of her former charges return as adults with kids of their own. She looked after the mother and aunt of one child she looks after now, for instance. “I never really lose touch with them,” Louise said. “A lot of my children that I have at the moment have older siblings that are at school. I still look after the older siblings before and after school.” Louise is one of more than 13,000 family day care educators who look after more than 108,000 children around the country. Celebrating its ninth year, the 2020 Family Day Care Australia’s Excellence in Family Day Care Awards highlights the incredible work of family day care educators and the invaluable contributions they make to the lives of children, families and communities. This year, 5600 carers were nominated. Family Day Care Australia Chief Executive Officer, Andrew Paterson, said: “It is a testament to the incredible work coming out of our sector from educators like Louise. They have gone above and beyond to nurture and support the children in their care, and we are thrilled to recognise their achievements,” said Mr Paterson. The awards also celebrate the unique strengths of family day care and how strong relationships between educators and children, and a nurturing home learning environment, make family day care the natural choice for quality early childhood education and care. “Family day care provides educators with an opportunity like no other, to form meaningful bonds with the children they care for and tailor their learning environment according to each child’s needs and interests,” Mr Paterson said. Louise is in the running to be a national finalist for the 2020 National Family Day Care Educator of the Year Award. National finalists will be announced on December 7. The 2020 National Family Day Care Educator of the Year Award will be announced at the Gala Dinner on February 27 2021.

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MyCareer education Q&A: Aboriginal educator Lee Sibir

How long have you been doing this job and what first sparked your interest in this area?


I grew up in Miller, and I was fortunate to have adults, teachers and mentors who believed in me. Their support gave me the knowledge that I could go to school every day and have the same opportunities as other students.

I always wanted to be a teacher. School for me was always a happy place and I felt safe. I loved learning and seeing my friends.

I completed a Diploma of Teaching at Wollongong University in 1995 and began teaching in 1996 in South West Sydney, at Bonnyrigg Heights Public School. In 2017, I was appointed school principal at Eastern Creek Public School.

As a proud Aboriginal educator, I feel that it is now my responsibility to give back to the children and whole community in much the same way that my family, community members and teachers did for me.

As a teacher and now principal, my belief is we teach all our children, we help our families and we work together towards reconciliation, we accept differences and, most importantly, we learn from the Aboriginal leaders in our community, so we get it right for our children and for many generations to come.

What do you like most about the job?

Educating and believing in our children, so that they have the knowledge and belief in themselves that they can achieve whatever they dream of.

I treat every child the way I want my own children to be treated.


What was the most unexpected thing you have had to do in your job?

I’ve had to manage school flooding, plumbing issues, fallen branches and these have all occurred in the past term. And then there’s been COVID-19.

What is the worst thing you have had to do?

During the past 24 years I have seen disadvantage in schools. I have seen children coming to school without a complete uniform, or sometimes with no uniform at all. Some children need to wear the same clothes every day so their uniforms are dirty. Some children may not have food for the day, or the proper learning resources needed to take part in class.

Throughout my career I have worked with many teachers who personally supply clothing, learning resources and lunches as part of the way they show support, love and care for their students.

Are there any other jobs you have done?


I started working in a milk bar when I was 14, then KFC at 16 and continued until I graduated from the University of Wollongong. While at university I did an Austswim course and later taught kids how to swim.

I was the school captain and SRC leader at Miller Public and Miller Technology High School and attended leadership conferences and became a peer leader at state level. I received a Minister’s Award of Excellence for Outstanding Achievement for Leadership in 1992.

I have always enjoyed talking to people and I believe communication and interpersonal skills are a necessity in any job where interactions and relationships are the key to success.

What advice do you have for people wanting to get into this career?

There is no right or wrong in life and I feel from my own experience all life and events, good and bad, make us who we are. Never give up on ourselves or people we care about. If you love children and are passionate about educating our children then public education and our schools are a great place to work.

What personal skills do they need?

The best advice I received at school is to be nice, kind and respectful to your peers; you never know what they are going through and your smile or just a hello may be the only one they get that day. So, if you want to make a difference and you have the skills and knowledge to work with children, then education is an amazing career.

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Nail Educator Answers Top 5 Before Opting for Nail Art

Women Fitness gets in touch with Guin Deadman, LeChat Nails Educator, a nail tech for last 25 years and a salon owner for 17 years. She is also 2019 Nailpro Cup Champion. During Covid-19 there are are certain factors to keep in mind to avoid infection.

Guin answers Top 5 to keep in mind while opting for Nail Art Treatment.

Q. Should I opt for nail art during these times?

A. Yes! Absolutely! Always remember that due to extra time requirements for cleaning, your nail technician may not have time for complicated designs, but even a simple accent nail can make your set more special.

Q.Products I should be using and avoid?

A. All professional nail products are safe when used properly, always make sure your nail artist is properly trained. Avoid dipping powders that are being used directly from the jar—the powder should be placed in bowl with the excess discarded afterwards.

Q. Top 5 smart tips to make a right choice of a nail artist?


  1. Make sure they’re following all cleaning and disinfection protocols, don’t be afraid to ask about their practices.
  2. Are they helping you make an informed decision about you nail services, asking lifestyle questions and explaining why different products and nail styles will be best suited for you.
  3. Don’t cheap out, choose the best artist your budget allows, you definitely get what you pay for when it comes to nails.
  4. Make appointments, and develop a relationship with your nail artist, your services will become more personalized as they get to know you.
  5. Use pictures for design inspiration, but don’t ask for exact match to photos, let them create their own artistic interpretation.

Q. Precautions to take while dealing with a nail experts?

A. Especially in current times it’s more important than ever to make sure your nail experts are following all cleaning and disinfectant requirements. You can view your state’s requirements online.

Q. Early sign of trouble and need to consult a doctor?

A. Do not go in for nail services if you have open wounds around your nails (it’s actually illegal for them to work on you if you have any open wounds). It should not be painful to get nail services, you should not leave salon with cuts or abrasions. If this happens find a new salon.

Allergies to nail products are not common, but always pay attention if you have burning or itching around nails after services. If you notice signs of infection around nail area seek medical attention.

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