Why You Need To Give Yourself Permission To Be Lazy


The other week I was at a beautiful 3rd wave coffee shop having a conversation with someone I admire and we got onto the topic of talking about the pressure that we put on ourselves to be our best. Day in and day out, this is something we both strive to do in all areas of our lives. In doing so, we tend to put so much pressure on ourselves to constantly be super producers, high achievers, and innovative thinkers in these areas.

But what happens when we can’t be at that level on a certain day?

What happens when we lose momentum with our leadership?

What happens when our goals start getting away from us after we had been catching up to them for some time?

What happens if we feel like we aren’t doing enough in our relationships?

The truth is, we are all human beings. We all bleed the same red blood. We all have a heartbeat. We are imperfect beings living, leading, and growing in an imperfect, turbulent time and it is time to read an article telling you to be a bit easier on yourself.

The other truth here is that we work too much and because of this we often are not intentional with our cycles of rest. We sometimes push too hard and we sometimes don’t know when to pause, slow down or just halt for a bit to reflect on all the amazing things we are achieving within our careers, relationships, and passions.

I am here today to tell you something that we should hear more often.

You need to give yourself permission to be lazy.

Ya, I said the ‘L’ word. Anyone who works or has a lucrative career, or is a serial entrepreneur is probably waving a red flag to that statement. But let me explain just what I mean here.

In a world which has information, opportunity, and communication moving faster than ever in human history, it is silly to think that our brains have evolved as quickly as the iPhone in the ability to process and harness so much noisy information. We simply cannot absorb all of the things that are being shared and communicated in our lives today. It is too much.

In giving yourself permission to be lazy, one day a week — this gives your brain and your body a chance to recover. Rest allows for a body in a catabolic state (state of breakdown due to too much stress) to switch over to an anabolic state (state of building up due to a reduction of stress).

Still don’t think you should give yourself permission to be lazy one day a week? Good, because here are some other benefits to being lazy one day a week:

Physical Benefits of being lazy one day a week →

Increased HGH Production

Research shows that if we are able to get high-quality sleep for at least 7–8 hours per night our bodies have the needed time to produce ample HGH (human growth hormone) which is the hormone responsible for many things like muscle tone, energy, and cellular regeneration. If we are able to come off of a high-quality sleep and follow it up with a lazy day, it is like giving your body a full 24 hours to recover from the stresses of the world. I have seen this and felt this in my own life as well. There was a time in my life I was flat out 7 days a week. Going non-stop and working out non-stop. Yet, I couldn’t shred the visceral fat layer I had around my midsection. Although it wasn’t a lot, it was enough to make me wonder why I couldn’t shake it. Fast forward two years later with a lazy day built into my weekly schedule and a better stress management system, I no longer have that visceral fat layer around my midsection. Instead of my body being stressed and holding on to fat, it is releasing more HGH through my rest cycles which means more muscle, less fat.

Increased Learning Capacity

Oddly enough, in such the information age, it is vital to step away from noisy information to then be able to step back into that noise actively. What I mean here is that the more surface-level information we consume on things like social media, the more we crave surface-level information. Why? Because our neurological pathways in our brain are so exhausted from consuming surface-level information that it does not have the energy and ability to dive into deeper information. In order to increase our capacity to learn, understand and comprehend deep information, we must step away from information weekly. This was not necessarily true prior to the information age. However, here we are.


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Opportunity For Deep Thinking

Deep thinking can happen when given the right ingredients. These ingredients are time, a safe space free from distraction and comfort or familiarity. When you combine these things together, deep thinking can easily happen. When we stop trying to be the latest story on IG, or when we just put our devices away for a chunk of time and sit on the couch with a good book, deep thinking begins to unveil itself to you. This is why you need to be lazy for a full day. Deep thinking doesn’t just happen if you sit in a room for an hour. That can produce the start of deep thinking, but deep thinking truly happens after many hours and after you have given yourself permission to be ok with your thoughts. None of this can happen if your task list is a mile long and you are glued to your device in between tasks. Get some separation from obligation and watch what happens.

An Opportunity to Ease Relational Pressure

Nothing says, “I Love You” more than leading by example by showing your partner that it is not only ok but that it is fully permissible to be lazy one day a week. If your partner cannot accept that of you, it may not be the best relationship for you. You both should be ok to veg out on the couch, engage in great (and sometimes, goofy) conversation together. You need to know that you are not judged in walking around your house with your PJ’s on all day or in eating peanut from a jar with a spoon. The world and our social media world judges us enough so you shouldn’t feel judged on your lazy day. Embrace it, together!


The ultimate benefit of being lazy one day a week →

A Body Reset Is A Body that Is Ready to Go

Some people may still be thinking, “Ryan, I don’t have time to have a lazy day”. I get it. Life gets busy. Trust me, I am married to a nurse who works opposite schedules to me. Life gets crazy busy at times! But affording 1 day a week to be lazy is not that much time when you think about it. There are 168 hours in the week (including sleep time). If you block off 24 hours of “lazy time” that still leaves you with 144 hours in your week to be hyper-productive and to crush your goals and ambitions. If you award yourself this time to rest and reset, just wait and watch what your body will do with the remaining 144 hours in your week.


I wish for you to ‘go deep’ in your own life. For additional strategies on how to become more confident, organized, productive, and successful in your life and vocation, I encourage you to pick up my latest ebook: Thought Leadership. →

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Covid lockdown left us lazy, addicted to TV and drinking more

Life in lockdown during the spring was antisocial, lazy and marked by heavy drinking but it did at least leave Britons with one healthy habit: camping.

A survey by the Office for National Statistics of the changing habits of British households from before, during and after the first lockdown shows that the restrictions left people aching to see friends, tend gardens and go camping.

During late March and April, people had 18 minutes more sleep a day, spent two hours 54 minutes in front of the TV, did 39 minutes gardening — more than twice as much as before the pandemic — and drank 20 per cent more alcohol than usual.

Some behaviours have lingered, such as working from home and gardening, but data for September and October showed that people had cut down on drink, were socialising more, watching 26 minutes less of TV a day and, if parents, working harder than ever.

Fathers who helped out with childcare during the first lockdown had also reverted to past behaviour. Women did one hour and three minutes more unpaid housework than men in September and early October. That was 69 per cent more than men, up from 44 per cent more during the first lockdown.

Will Tanner, director of the think tank Onward, said: “The ONS has exploded the myth that we all spent our lockdowns getting fit and working harder. We seem to have watched lots more TV.”

The ONS said that during the first lockdown there had been some substantial lifestyle changes. It said: “Our analysis of how people filled their time, which coincided with the first national lockdown, showed some substantial lifestyle changes. But there are some areas where those transformations have been short-lived.”

Britons were sleeping or resting eight hours 53 minutes a day on average in September and early October, compared with nine hours and 11 minutes a day in the lockdown, while the amount of time “socialising with friends, family, neighbours and colleagues” rose from six minutes a day to 34.

People also “reverted to older patterns, such as women doing 99 per cent more unpaid childcare than men”. During the first lockdown women did 55 per cent more unpaid childcare than men.

The survey suggested people were craving to be outdoors after months of confinement. The time spent gardening or doing DIY has dropped from 39 minutes a day in lockdown to 28 minutes but was still far higher than the 16-minute average before the outbreak.

Sales for the UK camping industry rose by almost 40 per cent over the summer compared with last year, after restrictions were lifted, but revenue at hotels and other short-stay accommodation fell. “We clearly went mad for camping,” Jonathan Athow, the deputy national statistician, said.

The ONS added: “Some of this may be down to people deciding to holiday in the UK because of international travel restrictions and the possibility of having to quarantine. Other types of accommodation, such as hotels, remained depressed, suggesting that people may have believed it would be easier to socially distance on a campsite than in buildings.”

The ONS analysis showed that parents were working harder than ever in September and early October. Before the crisis parents spent an average of 201 minutes on paid work a day. That fell to 177 minutes in the spring lockdown, when many parents were home schooling, but rose to 231 minutes in October.

“The increase in paid work for parents was almost fully driven by time spent working from home, showing an increase by 90 per cent on an average day across the week,” the ONS said.

“By October, men spent 18 minutes less on an average day doing unpaid household work than they had in lockdown, down to one hour and 40 minutes. Women, on the other hand, perform a similar amount of household work as during the first national lockdown; a total of two hours and 44 minutes a day. However, women are spending 24 minutes less on such chores than before the pandemic.”

The survey also found that after lockdown those with the highest incomes increased their time working from home while those with lower incomes worked away from home more.

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‘Recession over’ headlines are lazy and ignore the reality of most Australians | Greg Jericho | Business

One weird thing about recessions is that everyone wants to be the first to claim we are in one, and then also the first to claim we are out of it. But unfortunately, despite some reporting that the Reserve Bank is saying we are no longer in a recession, the reality is we are still very much in one, and it remains very deep.

It is amazing how people cling to things that are clearly inadequate or wrong, just because they are easy.

Many journalists, ever hesitant to deal with the complexities of the economy and explain the vast array of numbers and figures, have for many years now clung with grim determination to the belief that a recession means two consecutive quarters of negative growth.

As a result, when the deputy governor of the Reserve Bank, Guy Debelle, suggested to the Senate economic estimates committee on Tuesday that the bank’s “best guess is it looks like the September quarter for the country recorded positive growth rather than slightly negative”, journalists around the country added one and one together and came up with 11.

If Australia’s GDP increases in the September quarter, then clearly that is no longer two consecutive quarters of negative growth, and huzzah!, we’re “no longer in a recession”.

And so we had headlines such as the AFR’s “The recession is over: RBA”, and the Australian’s “Recession may be over: Reserve Bank”.

Except the deputy governor said nothing about the recession being over. He merely indicated that the bank expects GDP to increase in the September quarter, which to be honest is hardly a shock given the June quarter fell 7%.

Remember, growth is relative to the previous quarter, so if economic growth in the September quarter was smaller than what was achieved in the months of April, May and June, when most of the country was in lockdown, then we would be seriously stuffed.

But consider that if we achieve say 0.5% growth in the September quarter (we won’t find out till December) our economy in those three months will still be some 6.3% smaller than what it was a year earlier:

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That, my friends, is still a recession.

But we don’t need to cling to the old line about consecutive GDP growth to measure a recession. Not only is it far too broad a measure, and ignores how growth is achieved, it is also far too slow.

We don’t need to wait till December to find out what was happening in September, we already have a very good indicator – the monthly labour force figures.

Ask yourself what really matters in a recession. Is it net exports that might enable overall GDP growth to be positive, or increased government investment spending that overcomes declines in the private sector?

Such things are so disconnected from day-to-day lives that suggesting they determine a recession is almost to be purposefully dismissive of the experience of most people.

What matters in a recession is unemployment.

It is why (as I have noted before) the US economist Claudia Sahm came up with a recession indicator that ignores GDP and focuses on jobs.

She essentially compares the current unemployment rate with the lowest point it has been in the past 12 months. She argues that anytime the unemployment rate is more than 0.5% points above the lowest point it has been in the past 12 months, the economy is in a recession.

I like the measure, but I prefer to use underutilisation than unemployment because a big issue at the moment is not that people are out of work, but their hours have been severely cut back.

And because the underutilisation rate is generally around 2.5 times the unemployment rate, I have set the recession point at 1.5% above the 12-month minimum.

Using this measure shows we remain in a very deep recession, even if we exclude Victoria:

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What is truly scary is just how bad things are for prime-aged workers aged 25-54:

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And when we break down these workers in the peak earning years by gender, we see that the recession for men is roughly two-thirds worse than was the 1990s recession:

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We also see that while women mostly escaped calamity in the GFC, this time around things are worse than they ever have been.

Now perhaps such measures are too technical, so let me leave with this point – in September there were nearly 600,000 more people either out of a job or wanting to work more hours than there had been in February:

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If your definition of a recession does not think that matters, then your definition is worthless.

We remain in a recession, and the government and the Reserve Bank need to continue to act as though we are.

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Using ‘culture’ as a get-out clause is a lazy way of justifying a switch

It’s an intriguing one, because does he know it’s going to be any better at Princes Park? After a long rebuild, Carlton haven’t exactly delivered on their ‘Blueprint’ for success.

On exposed form, how can he really know the Blues culture?

That’s not to say someone like Saad or Joe Daniher can’t have concerns with the way the club is run, far from it.

Essendon pair Joe Daniher and Adam Saad. Both want out.Credit:The Age

But at what point is it their responsibility to change that and what exactly defines a great culture?

I’d argue there are countless businesses, organisations and footy clubs, that have still been successful without having great cultures.

It’s been well reported West Coast of the mid-2000s were formidable on the field, but that wasn’t necessarily a product of the standards the players met off it.

I think people get confused that winning means you’ve got a good culture and losing means you’ve got a bad culture.

It’s not that simple.

In many ways, strong leadership is the backbone of any organisation’s success. Strong leadership is required to build a solid culture, but they aren’t the same thing.

Culture, in a true sense, isn’t built overnight, but over long periods of time.

Geelong are perhaps the greatest example. It’s why the Cats consistently give themselves a chance year after a year.

It’s come because they’ve got their ducks in a row. Chief executive Brian Cook is a veteran of the footy industry and clearly a strong influence.

Underneath him during the premiership years was Neil Balme as footy boss, and more recently Scott and Joel Selwood have driven the standards as coach and captain.

Hawthorn, after all those years of success, are another club who I believe boast a strong culture that’s been built over time and that hasn’t changed despite the Hawks not winning as much this season.

What about Brisbane? A few years ago, the Lions were considered a basket case. Now, they’re a destination club, with great leadership.

They’re building a good culture.

I would argue they’ve got good people in the right positions and now that is translating into success on the field.

Much of Richmond’s recent success has been put down to culture of selflessness, after distinct changes from the club’s leadership that have been well documented.

A few off-field indiscretions and a couple of 50-metre penalties in finals doesn’t diminish what this club has achieved over the past few years, despite some of the commentary this week suggesting their standards have slipped.

Let’s not forget this has been a very different season. That’s a variable no one could have predicted. It’s also why, people at Tigerland, shouldn’t be concerned.

But in a trade sense, it seems we’re going to be hearing talk of culture more regularly. Often it has been the go-home factor, or family reasons. Maybe that explanation has worn a little thin.

Maybe, we’re just not mature enough to know the real reasons behind a player’s decision.

It’s funny because clubs and supporters never take great joy in their players leaving, but for most in the industry the lead up to the trade period has almost become a bloodsport.


Players are almost encouraged to move.

Everyone’s situation is different, whether it be Marc Murphy staying loyal to Carlton, or Shaun Higgins possibly departing North Melbourne because the Roos won’t guarantee his future.

With the introduction of free agency several years ago we’re clearly becoming more like the US where someone like LeBron James is on the verge of winning a championship with his third different team on the back of titles with Miami, Cleveland and perhaps soon, the Lakers.

Basketball is very different in that one player can change a team.

LeBron makes any team he joins an automatic title contender, but he also moved to be a better chance of winning another ‘ring’ elsewhere.

Do we really want that type of system? Once upon a time trading was skewed in the clubs’ favour, but now I think it’s too far the other way.

And using ‘culture’ as a get-out clause, particularly from player managers, is a lazy way of justifying a move.

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Adelaide Crows’ Reilly O’Brien calls West Coast Eagles ruck opponent Nic Naitanui ‘lazy and unfit’ in accidental tweet

Adelaide Crows ruckman Reilly O’Brien says a broken phone is to blame for a tweet in which he called West Coast ruck Nic Naitanui “lazy and unfit”.

O’Brien, who is due to face All-Australian Naitanui on Saturday afternoon, swiftly deleted the tweet which featured his game notes for the fixture and released a follow-up video explaining the situation.


“I’ve had an absolute mare on social media today,” O’Brien said.

“I tweeted some of my game notes on my iPhone. I take these notes every week to give myself a bit of confidence, and try to pump myself up going into the game.

O’Brien was quick to sing the praises of his upcoming opponent. Naitanui is yet to respond.

Adelaide Crows player Reilly O'Brien runs away from a pack of Carlton players.
Reilly O’Brien’s Crows are yet to win a game in 2020.(AAP: David Crosling)

“I’m coming up this week against who I think is probably the best ruck in the competition at the moment, NicNat.

“I was just trying to get some confidence and get going, so I’ve really put some pressure on myself now.

“I’ve got to walk the walk now and get a kick against the superstar that is NicNat, so we’ll see how I go.”

The notes suggested O’Brien will be looking to “run off [Naitanui] hard”, as he will be able to “have a field day getting ball and marking everything”.

The Adelaide Crows also tweeted their own light-hearted response.


Adelaide is enduring a difficult season, and is winless after five games ahead of a clash with the Eagles at the Gabba.

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‘Lazy, crazy, hazy days of summer’: Heat wave sweeps across Central Canada

As Canadians emerge from their homes following months spent largely indoors, summer has kicked up a notch in Central Canada to meet them, with a blistering heat wave that is set to continue through the weekend.

Environment and Climate Change Canada has announced heat warnings for southern Manitoba and the vast majority of Ontario, alerting the public that temperatures could stay above 30 degrees for longer than seven days.

“These are the lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer in Central Canada,” David Phillips, senior climatologist with Environment Canada, told CTV News.

It’s not unusual for Canada to see some heat in the summer, but this is “a little bit early,” according to Phillips. 

“Normally the dog days of summer don’t come for another month,” he said.

“What we’re seeing over the next seven days is just a continuation of this very warm, humid kind of condition. Not just one or two days but seven days to 10 days in a row with temperatures that are 30 degrees or above, nights that are very warm, and that’s often very unhealthy, of course. And high humidity — as the crops are beginning to grow, we put more moisture into the air.”

A heat warning for Toronto specifies that overnight temperatures will be at least 20 degrees for the next few days — a sticky situation for anyone without air conditioning.

While central Canada cooks, Western Canada is being faced with rainfall and thunderstorm weather statements, particularly in northern Alberta and B.C.

“This is a big country,” Phillips said. “But I think what’s sort of unusual [is] it’s extreme.

“Edmonton has just finished 10 days in a row with wet weather, they’ve had twice the amount of precipitation they normally would see. We’re seeing no forest fires, really … in British Columbia, Alberta and parts of Saskatchewan. But here in the central part of the country, from Manitoba through northern-central-southern Ontario and western Quebec, we’re into another heat bout.”

He said that in Toronto, “this time last year, we had no days above 30.

“We’ve already had 11, and humid days too.”

The heat poses a problem for those who want to cool off while following health guidelines for the pandemic.

“It’s just unprecedented times,” Phillips said. “Often by this time, you can have a list of do’s and don’ts with regards to the heat and humidity, but it’s different now because of the circumstances we’re in.”

Because the spring was relatively mild, he said, “we weren’t necessarily seduced into going outside.”

But he says he’s seen more people drawn to the beach as temperatures rise.

“The other thing is the water temperatures are beginning to warm up,” he pointed out. “I notice people are not just … stepping their toes in the water, they’re actually getting into it.”

He said it’s important to keep health guidelines in mind.

“It’s more difficult to practice physical distancing, and we just have to be mindful of that,” he said. “The authorities are doing what they can to encourage people to do that, but individuals have to take a certain responsibility.

“We can enjoy the dog days of summer, the beer-drinking kind of weather, without putting ourselves at risk.”

Anyone going outside during the heat wave should also be careful of the dangers extreme heat can bring. Environment Canada states in their heat warnings that “extreme heat affects everyone,” but that “the risks are greater for young children, pregnant women, older adults, people with chronic illnesses and people working or exercising outdoors.”

The symptoms of illness related to heat include dizziness, nausea, rapid breathing and extreme thirst.

In Toronto, where temperatures are anticipated to potentially reach 35 degrees Thursday and on the weekend, the city has opened 15 emergency cooling centres in response to the heat.

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Tory MP sparks outrage by calling colleagues who oppose Parliament reopening ‘lazy’ and ‘work-shy socialists’

A Conservative MP is under fire after he branded politicians who opposed fully reopening Parliament as “lazy” and work-shy socialists”.

Henry Smith, the representative for Crawley, suggested that MPs who object to the current virtual Parliament ending were just hesitant to work.

The Commons is currently only open to a maximum of 50 MPs at one time with other MPs joining debates remotely via Zoom.

Tories have been pressing for Parliament to return to normality, led by Commons leader Jacob Rees-Mogg who said it would “set an example”.

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However, opposition leaders have railed against the plan amid concerns over a lack of personal protective equipment (PPE).

Mr Rees-Mogg confirmed on Wednesday that he is pressing ahead with plans to make MPS return to Westminster after the Whitsun recess ends on June 2.

It prompted Mr Smith to tweet on Thursday: “Not that I should be surprised by the lazy left but interesting how work-shy socialist and nationalist MPs tried to keep the remote Parliament going beyond 2 June.

The tweet sparked a furious backlash, with Labour deputy leader Angela Rayner among the opposition figures to round on Mr Smith.

Ms Rayner replied: “We have all really tried to keep cross party working on #Coronavirus calling fellow MPs “Lazy” and “Work-shy” is poor Henry, many colleagues from all sides of the house and their staff have been working very hard for our constituents during the lockdown, no need for this nonsense.”

Labour MP Jess Phillips called it an “appalling thing to say”, adding: “Calling people working at home workshy is quite something.”

Wes Streeting, the Labour MP for Ilford North, added: “If you think that the virtual Parliament and home-working has been a ‘work-shy’ or ‘lazy’ experience, then that tells us rather more about how you’ve been spending your working days in recent weeks than the rest of us who’ve been working flat out.”

Peter Kyle, Labour MP for Hove and Portside, fumed that the tweet was “nasty” and “thoughtless”.

Confirming he was pressing ahead with plans to reopen in June, Mr Rees-Mogg said Parliament would be “Covid-19 secure” by June 2 and would be stripped of the “crowded, bustling chamber of old”.

He insisted that the current virtual set up hinders “proper scrutiny” and had slashed the time available for debating legislation by two thirds.

Labour has said ministers have “yet to provide an honest explanation as to why it wants to bring this virtual system to an end”.

Tory MPs are among the many who have expressed concerns over the plan, with Michael Fabricant saying MPs “risk becoming 650 super-spreaders”.

The Standard has approached Henry Smith for comment.

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